Top Reasons Why Most Relationships
Fail
Getting hitched too young.
A lot of people start dating in their late teens. On
many occassions they end up marrying their first or
second lover. At such a young age, your mind haven't
fully developed. You don't know what you want out of
life. You don't know how to choose a life long partner.
You have not lived long enough to see what life has
to offer. You meet a cute chick, knock her up, and now
you are screwed. It is very likely that you will end
up marrying her. Put a friggin' fork in it because your
life is done. You just moved out of your parents house
for chrissake. With your newfound freedom, this is what
you choose to get into? Or better yet, you are still
living with your parents. Oh lord have mercy on your
soul. Slow your ass down. What is the big friggin hurry?
You think your sperm or eggs will expire? Perhaps you
think the government will take away your right to have
children or to get married? Fast forward a few years
later, if your marriage even last that long. Now you
are older, wiser, and more mature. You have had a chance
to see what life has to offer. All the possiblities
awaits you but you are strapped down. Broken ass relationship,
crappy paying job and a child to support. If you two
get a divorce, you have to pay vaginamony and child
support. You have to pay child support until the kid
is 18. Do the smart thing, wait till you are at least
25 before you start thinking about getting involved
in a serious relationship. You ever look back at all
the dumb ass things you did when you were young? Most
of those dumb ass things didn't cost you nearly as much
as child support.
If you are 25 or younger, go date and have fun. Learn
some relationship lessons on the way. You have a whole
life ahead of you. DON'T screw it by getting married
or having kids too young unless you want to F up your
life. If you must do one, get married but HOLD OFF on
the kid thing. Your brain needs to mature before you
can make that kind of a decision. I hear so many horror
stories about young kids having kids and getting married.
WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING? We are no longer in
the Stone Ages. That is some dumb chit cavemen use to
do. Have the human race not evolved after thousands
of years? Jesus christ it fires me up. Life is tough
enough as it is. You need to add more chit to your plate.
Real smart. If you are young, you have no friggin' idea
how hard life is. Just you wait. Enjoy your youth while
you can. If you are like me and you just like to rebel,
go do some chit that won't permanently F up your life.
Go flip over some trash cans or something. Anything
but cranking out kids. Go date a bunch of people but
do it safe. Girls, if your dream is to marry Prince
Charming, you better not crank out a bunch of kids.
If there is such a thing as Prince Charming, he will
not want to date someone with kids. Just Trust Me. If
he is all that, he will be very picky.
The proximity factor.
For most of us, our best friend is someone we met when
we were young. We couldn't venture out of our neighborhood
so we had to play/settle with our neighbor's kid. Soon
after, you two became best friends. You weren't given
a choice to hang out with this fella, he lived next
door. Fast forward 20 years later, both of you have
grown and matured. You now are disguessed with one and
other. Both of you have matured into your own man. You
now have "a" personality. You two no longer think the
same. No longer like that same things and so on and
so forth. In most cases, you two will slowly grow apart.
Now granted some do remain best friends. Like I said
in my disclaimer, there are exceptions to every rule.
The above example is very much like most relationships.
Most people hook up with people they work with, people
they live with, the guy in your math class, the girl
next door and so on and so forth. Don't even get me
started with these arranged marriages. What the hell
are these parents thinking. Oh well, that's another
topic. When you limit your selection, often time you
end up settling for someone that you feel is less than
perfect. It starts out find and dandy. Slowly you start
noticing their bad side. At first you put up with their
shit. Over time you start to resent them. A few years
have gone by and you just absolutely can't take it no
more and you blow the hell up. Where did it all go wrong
you ask. You my friend are a victim of Proximity. For
most people, dating within the circle is the only way
because we just don't have time to venture out. If that
is you, make damn sure this person is truly right for
you and not just because they are your only choice.
With most things in life, you excerise your freedom
to choose. Why on earth would you not do the same when
it comes to picking your mate. Look Outside The Box.
Technology
Need I say more? For those of you who are baffled by
the high failure rate of relationships, wonder no more.
I have your answer right here. You are thinking to yourself,
my parents have been married for 30, 40 years and they
are still together, why can't I do it. Back in the old
days, they didn't have cell phones, internet, and cars.
Technology have made it extremely easy to cheat. You
could be sitting on the shitter texting your mistress
while your wife is in the shower. Or you could jump
in your car at lunch time to get a quicky with the dude
that works a few blocks away. You could even have multiple
email addresses for all the different people you are
humping. There were no MySpace, FaceBook and a host
of other networking / dating sites back then. You now
can hook up with some chick half way around the world.
We humans love selection and varity. You give a human
choices and watch how they react. We are only as faithful
as our options. With all the technology that are available
these days, the whole world is your meat market. Oh
lord help us :) |
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